So yeah - this one's been pending for a long while now - but who has the time these days? To read, to write... In fact, have you ever stopped to think if you even have time for YOURSELF? Because I think almost 90% of us these days are literally OBSESSED with the digital and social world!
I have noticed a great deal of people (myself included), can sit for hours on end on facebook, doing NOTHING AT ALL! Writing a new post? Nah. Chatting with friends? Nah. Then what are you doing on facebook? "Staring at my wall"!! Yes. It indeed is as lame as it sounds! What I don't get is what joy or pleasure do we get out of sitting like zombies in front of a bright screen, going through stories of peoples lives that do not have anything to do with us in the least!
Of course while talking about facebook, whatsapp can't be left behind!
Agreed we teenagers LOVE to be with our friends 24*7. But trust me - I speak from personal experience... Being with "the people you love" ALL the time leads to more feuds than fun! Instead of spending all the time at your disposal with ONE person, have you ever tried spending lesser time with more people?
No? Try it - and I can guarantee you that you'll be a happier person.
These two again - aren't our only obsessions. We have folders and folders of photographs in our laptops and mobile phones of our boyfriends, the cool college gang, crushes and hot singers and actors. We could go over them for hours on end, day after day, night after night and never get tired of it. I know - I do it myself. But yesterday I sat down with my sister and took out an old album of our family weddings, and when we were small. You won't believe the memories that flooded our minds, and how much we laughed and cherished those moments. That's when I realised I've literally stopped interacting with my family altogether. You meet your boyfriend and your gang everyday. Cool you have tonnes and tonnes of pictures of them. But whom do you laugh over them with? Whom do you share them with? No one - because it's part of your daily routine! Once in a way take out your family album and take it to your grandma or parents and see how they light up as they tell you the story behind each and every picture! That joy, that bliss, to go over memories and smile at them with someone to share it with you, matches no other!
Look - I am in no way saying that we should throw our phones and laptops away and ONLY use them for contacting each other.. Pictures are memories. Memories are important. And given our generation, if you don't talk to someone for 3-4 days, they think you're ignoring them and get annoyed. I get all that. But what I am trying to stress on over here is - do that when you have NOTHING better to do. When you're around people, be it family, work, or friends, spend time with THEM instead of gassing away on BBM or WhatsApp... Tell the concerned people that you are with friends/family, or that you are busy and will get back to them. I'm sure they will understand. And if they don't, I'm sorry, but as harsh as it may sound, they don't deserve to be with you in the first place if they can't understand you.
Life is short guys - I've learnt it the hard way - you NEVER know what the next moment might have in store for you.
Spend time with the people you love, but don't ignore the people who love you. Make them feel special too. Let your loved ones know how much you care. You don't need to get mushy cards and all to show your love and affection - remember - actions always speak louder than words.
Talking, hanging out, even just watching a movie - just spending any amount of time with all the people in your life will not only make you a happier and calmer person, but at the same time, will make the others feel loved and welcomed in your life.
And trust me, there is no greater joy than knowing that you made someone's day!!
So talk, love, hug, laugh.... Make yourself special and make others happy!
Have a great day.
I have noticed a great deal of people (myself included), can sit for hours on end on facebook, doing NOTHING AT ALL! Writing a new post? Nah. Chatting with friends? Nah. Then what are you doing on facebook? "Staring at my wall"!! Yes. It indeed is as lame as it sounds! What I don't get is what joy or pleasure do we get out of sitting like zombies in front of a bright screen, going through stories of peoples lives that do not have anything to do with us in the least!
Of course while talking about facebook, whatsapp can't be left behind!
Agreed we teenagers LOVE to be with our friends 24*7. But trust me - I speak from personal experience... Being with "the people you love" ALL the time leads to more feuds than fun! Instead of spending all the time at your disposal with ONE person, have you ever tried spending lesser time with more people?
No? Try it - and I can guarantee you that you'll be a happier person.
These two again - aren't our only obsessions. We have folders and folders of photographs in our laptops and mobile phones of our boyfriends, the cool college gang, crushes and hot singers and actors. We could go over them for hours on end, day after day, night after night and never get tired of it. I know - I do it myself. But yesterday I sat down with my sister and took out an old album of our family weddings, and when we were small. You won't believe the memories that flooded our minds, and how much we laughed and cherished those moments. That's when I realised I've literally stopped interacting with my family altogether. You meet your boyfriend and your gang everyday. Cool you have tonnes and tonnes of pictures of them. But whom do you laugh over them with? Whom do you share them with? No one - because it's part of your daily routine! Once in a way take out your family album and take it to your grandma or parents and see how they light up as they tell you the story behind each and every picture! That joy, that bliss, to go over memories and smile at them with someone to share it with you, matches no other!
Look - I am in no way saying that we should throw our phones and laptops away and ONLY use them for contacting each other.. Pictures are memories. Memories are important. And given our generation, if you don't talk to someone for 3-4 days, they think you're ignoring them and get annoyed. I get all that. But what I am trying to stress on over here is - do that when you have NOTHING better to do. When you're around people, be it family, work, or friends, spend time with THEM instead of gassing away on BBM or WhatsApp... Tell the concerned people that you are with friends/family, or that you are busy and will get back to them. I'm sure they will understand. And if they don't, I'm sorry, but as harsh as it may sound, they don't deserve to be with you in the first place if they can't understand you.
Life is short guys - I've learnt it the hard way - you NEVER know what the next moment might have in store for you.
Spend time with the people you love, but don't ignore the people who love you. Make them feel special too. Let your loved ones know how much you care. You don't need to get mushy cards and all to show your love and affection - remember - actions always speak louder than words.
Talking, hanging out, even just watching a movie - just spending any amount of time with all the people in your life will not only make you a happier and calmer person, but at the same time, will make the others feel loved and welcomed in your life.
And trust me, there is no greater joy than knowing that you made someone's day!!
So talk, love, hug, laugh.... Make yourself special and make others happy!
Have a great day.
i truly enjoyed reading this. One often gets the feeling that teenagers today are losing connectivity with reality-I am glad that is not true of some-especially you!
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